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Things I was Told

by Skoon

This is based on Sengrisane's journal of the same name -
https://inkbunny.net/j/515577-SenGrisane-things-i-was-told

However, I am gonna take it in a slightly different direction and focus down on just a few of the most impactful things which revisit my headspace.

Also I am dreadfully sick with a head cold as I write this, forgive grammatical errors and rambling in advance.

A thing I was told-

"When you get old enough, you will want kids!" Related- "You will give your plushies to your kids."

I would even get that repeated back at me whenever I'd protest. "Oh, you'll change your mind", they'd say. Well, they were also sure I was a heterosexual, cis-gendered male AND Christian, and none of those things were true either.

I am, as of writing this, 36 years old. I still do not want kids. Ever. Likewise, my plushies are my babies, I adore them all. They have names and I will never give them up.

Eat it, smug boomers from 15+ years ago.

A thing I was told-

"When you grow up, you'll get your own house and car."

AAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA *haf haf* AAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA

WHEEEEEEEEZE

AAAAHHHAHHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHHHHAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAA *COUGH*

INHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAALE

BWAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

HU BOY!!! WEW! LAWDY!

A thing I was told-

"Anybody can be president!"

No, seriously. A lot of Millennial American kids were told this. As were gen-X and so forth up the scale. That, unironically, anybody could earn a shot at the presidency.

What a fat load.

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SenGrisane

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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Oh these also ring very try. Especially "Oh you'll change your mind when you are older"

Suck it. I am still a child trapped in an adult's body. ^^

JayRude

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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@ SenGrisane

real shit !!!!

SherryDomino

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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@ SenGrisane

Preach

AmoraSilverspark

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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Yep, heard all of those before. None of them rang true for me either.

Edmon

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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Honestly at this point "A thing I was told-" is like "It's tradition!" at this point because word of mouth and things from then to now are much different and were never or no longer relevant

MrBunHeart

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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Edited 3 weeks, 1 day ago by Owner

Let me start by saying that I replied to SenGrisane's journal
& to show that I knew how it felt (& to make sure I did understand the tone of the journal
left some examples
I don't want to debate or argue any beliefs or lifestyles
(however I will admit to mistakenly thinking my family's, my own or my friends were being attacked)

I can emphasize with your journal to

I was told &or lead to believe many things

BEFORE I even discovered inkbunny or Facebook or furaffinity or many other websites I was learning computer in High School & was told I'd have a promising career waiting for me & I'd be able to buy a new house & car that first year became of my high School computer studies  ,  guess what, back when I was in highschool I got 97-100% on each computer test & now about 40% or more of what I learned is already obsolete

AFTER I found inkbunny , furaffinity , Facebook , Myspace  , etc. it may be different players but it seems to be FOR ME  the same old story

So

I decided to go paralegal studies but computers are cutting into that field now

As I said I sympathize but I'm sorry if my examples make it seem I want to but I don't

I don't want to debate or argue with SenGrisane , you or anyone,  I am sorry if my grammar , punctuation &or wording gives the wrong impression

TepTepgi

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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@ MrBunHeart

Back in the past for me it was Windows live messenger and Skype and deviantart before inkbunny and discord

MrBunHeart

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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@ TepTepgi

Well there was a time back in the past a relative was waiting for something at the public library & I wanted to go hang with him but I had to log out & shut down the multiple online windows I had opened , (they don't like when people just shut off the computer) , when I finally got that all done that relative had left the library

Now I can log/sign out of all the things opened at the moment within 5 seconds. Somethings do seem to improve with computers & somethings with computers stay the same just at a faster speed

TepTepgi

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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@ MrBunHeart

I hate ageing.

MrBunHeart

2 weeks, 5 days ago

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@ TepTepgi

I don't like getting older either

As long as I'm old enough to drive & get the non inflated drivers insurance

Paleumi

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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*hugs into the puppy* hope you feel better soon.

PurpleDragon2000

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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Yup heard the exact same bullshit before from my parents and others and I still don't agree with any of them.Like hell I will give my stuff to others let alone my kids which I don't want any, too much of a pain in the ass

Firerush

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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Yes, the president is a fat load

Lloxie

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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GOD I feel that first one so hard. At least my folks backed off a bit once I finally came out as bi and revealed I was relationship with another guy... albeit not without other annoyances. >.> Not everyone is gonna have a desire for freaking spawn, dammit! And ditto on the plushies. They're MINE to snuggle, dammit. Always. SO THERE. >:3

RE: the house thing....
*HEAVIEST SIGH OF ALL*
Fuckers looted everything in sight. Younger generations can't have shit.

What really irks me is that even being as much of an outsider and independent-minded as I was, I still ended up letting my folks, particularly my father, influence my course in life after highschool. I internalized the STEM-supremacy shit and let my interest in the arts gather dust because anything else is "pre-unemployment". And now I regret it immensely. Really galling how the older generations seem to have a vendetta against the arts and humanities. If I could go back now, I'd do some things really differently, I tell you.

Smolfoks

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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i would like a house and a car uwu

I just dont want them to cost my entire life

moyomongoose

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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Edited 3 weeks, 1 day ago by Owner

I've also heard, "If you work hard, and put your nose to the grind stone, you'll be prosperous some day".
Well excuse me...If you put your nose to a grind stone, you wouldn't have a nose left.

Back before I got my own house, which was when I was about 25 years old, one of my aunts gave me some bum advise. Whether or not she meant well I'll never know. My Auntie Alecia was more a dreamer, and less in tune with how things work in the real world.
Here's what she advised me 45 years ago:

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Your mamma told me how you would like to get your own house someday. But you have to establish some credit first.
Here's what you should do...Apply for some department store credit cards. Department store credit cards are a cinch to get.
Now listen up...After you loyally keep up payments on your department store credit cards for a year or so, go open a bank account. Then you would be eligible to get approved for a major credit card. After you have your major credit card a while, you can also get a 2nd major credit card. It would also help to finance a big ticket item to further build your credit. It doesn't have to be something like a new car. It could be something like a moped or an ATV.
Then the day comes you see a house for sale you want.
The first thing the realtor will ask you is, "Well, Omar. Do you have some sort of credit history by which a bank can grant you a loan for this house?"
Then you can hand a copy of your credit report to the realtor and proudly tell him, "Yes I do. It's right here, Buddy".
And bingo...You'll be approved for a loan on your new home.

As a young buck, I believed my Auntie Alecia for a while. And it wasn't long before I found out following her failed advise got me too bogged down in credit card debt to keep up the payments. After going default on the cards, I had to file bankruptcy.
Fortunately, it was in a day and time before the President Bush era, when you could still wipe out credit card debt in a bankruptcy.

Years later, I got 17 acres of rural land in Arkansas for $15,000 with $200 down and $135 per month owner finance, and no credit check.
After I closed the deal, I built a cabin on that land myself which took me about a year and a half to complete.
In the county where I purchased the land, a building permit was not required unless you lived in a city.
That's what I should have done when I was 25 years old instead of following my Auntie Alecia's kooky advice.

I might post this comment as a journal.

htfcuddles

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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Edited 3 weeks, 1 day ago by Owner

ahahahahahahahaha
I was told exactly the same, word by word (but in Spanish of course). Its hilarious. I'm 38 and not only I dont want kids, ever, but I have plushies and I love them. I also don't want pets but not because I don't like them- I don't want them because I know I don't have the responsibility to take care for one.

If I don't want a pet, with the amount of animals that I do love, imagine an actual kid lmao
And the "When you grow up you'll get your own house and a car", also exactly the same. It sounds like a bad joke today.
And the "Anybody can be president"... Well, technically speaking, *in theory* that would be true here in the country I live. But in practice.... ahahahahahahahahah no.

And some more you may have heard:
- "Online friendships aren't real! It's IMPOSSIBLE to become friends with someone you've never seen!"
- "Just wait, that attitude [me loving punk and metal music with protest lyrics] is just a phase"
- "When you're older you'll regret acting like you do"
- "When you're older and closer to death you will come back to religion and god, because we need to get in peace with him before we leave"
- "No matter what happens, you'll always count with your family". This one is actually true: Families don't need to be bound by blood after all. hah.

Cobalt

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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IMHO That whole norman rockwell thing is a marketing scheme designed to turn America’s workers into consumer drones. Get a job, get a credit card, get into debt, get a house, get a mortgage, get the latest household appliances, get a loan, get a car, get a wife, get her gifts, get a ring, get married, have a big expensive wedding, get her pregnant, get some kids, get them clothes, get them that thing they saw on tv that they absolutely have to have because everyone they know has one and they can’t be the odd man out or everyone will think they’re weird, get them braces, get them college, get them mentally conditioned to grow up to follow the same lifetime path of buy buy buy and stay in debt because you wouldn’t want this to affect your credit rating would you? And if you ever question it or fail to fall in line you must be some kind of subversive freak who is setting a bad example for the children.

KNIFE

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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https://youtu.be/1Tpu_XoNABA?si=96Myggho_Q9XIUUA :/

Ronoae

3 weeks, 1 day ago

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The absolute bullshit peddled to us when we were kids is half the reason so many of us are so starry eyed about being successful and making it big when, really, that's pretty well reserved for the people with $$$.

It sucks that we were set up to fail with "unreasonable" expectations (having a house is "unreasonable" and I'll never get over how fucked up that is, either).

(Also, god damn it, NO we WON'T want kids. In this economy?!)

Teko

3 weeks ago

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There's definitely a huge difference between something that's technically true ("Anyone in this room can be President!") and the reality (of needing insane gobs of money, family connections, etc).

But as a kid, my teachers pretty much laid out how I was expected to live my life: get a job, get married, have 2.5 kids, buy a house, retire at 65, and then start enjoying myself. I think a lot of people in my parents' generation are still baffled when their kids don't follow that plan.

miniunleashed

2 weeks, 1 day ago

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Having kids in this fucked up world hahaha

sedir

1 week, 2 days ago

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Turns out our elders could be just as arrogant as we were as kids lol

That being said I still think there's wisdom behind those sentiments. With time comes not only age, but change too. Not everything about you will change, nor will everything around you, but time WILL change us and our surroundings. If only we were taught the principle instead of being told who we would be.

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